Today started rough. My state had crashed after two weeks alone in Stockholm. I started doubting everything:
- This digital nomad thing isn’t working.
- I’m hurting my career.
- I can only daygame in a city I actually live in.
The mind plays tricks on you. I forgot about the last two week’s successes: opening 44 sets, collecting 7 phone numbers, going on 2 dates and 1 instant date. Not outlandish results, but something I’m proud of considering I’m trying to create something from nothing - all alone in a country I’ve never been. And work is going just fine: my client doesn’t give two shits about where I’m located.
It was with this low vibe, that I decided to have a walk in the sun and open at least one set on this Sunday. “Come on, just get blown out once to prove to yourself that you can still take action”, I told myself.
But that’s not what happened:
The first set I opened, seemed to like me. My stacking was on point, and we vibed for a minute or two on her job1. I even remembered to ground the set by making sure we both knew at least 3 real things about each other. After 8 minutes I closed the set, but she told me she had a boyfriend. That explains why she accepted my flirting but didn’t reciprocate, I thought. Nevertheless, she gave me her number explicitly stating that we could meet on friendly terms.
The two sets after that followed a similar pattern: easy hook points, long conversations, but all unavailable.
The second set was a New York student girl, who loved my stop, but after 30 seconds told me that she had a girlfriend. Alright then… She reached out to shake my hand and encouraged me sincerely. This catapulted my vibe from the abyss into the stratosphere.
A few minutes later, I opened another shopping girl with dark fizzy hair and a good fashion style. Everything about this set was above-average in terms of my performance: spontaneous and strong stop, creative stacking making her chuckle, vibing on just two subjects2, and plenty of investment. The whole time (about 10 minuets) she stood there enjoying the interaction. As I came to the close, she politely thanked me but said the had a boyfriend. “It’s true, I’m not just saying that. I really enjoyed talking to you”, she added. We smiled, shook hands and left the interaction in high spirits.
I felt I needed this. If I would have gone home, I would have carried my low vibe into next week. Now, I look up and see no more clouds. I fondly remember Tom Torero saying that “you control the weather in your own head”. It’s absolutely true. However, the control happens by taking decisive action - not by sorting through your thoughts. He used to say that “daygame is his therapy”. I felt this brief 40 minute daygame session had been that way for me.