Today I did my 500th approach. I remember walking Warschauer Straße hoping for a memorable set for this personal milestone. I was not dissapointed.
She was a pretty Russian who turned out to be on her way to meet some friends. The set was a ray of hope in what was otherwise a very bleak session, as my vibe has been very flat that day. The set didn’t go anywhere because she had a boyfriend of 4 years, but as we parted ways she said “you have very beautiful eyes” as she grabbed my hand to shake it. It’s small moments like these, despite of losing the set, that fuel my determination to reach the next 500 approaches.
After 500 approaches I realize much is still to be learned. Ironically, I felt more competent at 250 approaches than I do now at 500, because of the Dunning Kruger effect in daygame.
In most sets, I still feel like I’m drowning. My openers are usually good: girls stop and I reach hook point consistently. The non-verbals are sometimes too shy, but my approach and stop are sufficiently powerful to kill momentum most of the time.
My stacking is alright. Most of the time I get her talking. Still, often it’s plain weird and girls give me a puzzled look. Occasionally, the stack is brilliant and the girl lights up.
My vibing is still nonexistent. I can’t think of a set where me and the girl engaged in an exchange of playful banter with a sexual undertone. I’m definitely giving off too much of a Nice Guy vibe. Usually, I skip vibing and go straight to investment, which makes most of my sets rather boring.
Statistically speaking, comparing myself to others in the community, my results have been unusually good: 8 lays from daygame, 7 of which were SDLs. Two of these girls were prettier than what I’m used to getting from LTRs. In fact, one of them was a very hot young student who nearly derailed my player journey as we settled into a short relationship that lasted several months. Two were older and of lower SMV than me - I was just horny. The rest of the girls were unremarkable, and I probably wouldn’t have gone for it today.
I think my success can partly be explained by a strong focus on SMV from the very beginning. I reinvented my style, got a professional haircut and dropped below 10% body fat. Coincidentally, I was going through one of the best periods in my life when I started daygame, which resulted in an outstanding vibe on the streets. I was oozing positivity, excitement and happiness. In essence, I was getting lucky with yes-girls who liked me for my looks and vibe, despite of a complete lack of Game. If there’s one hidden talent I have it’s closing yes-girls: if a girl clearly likes me, I’m able to consistently lead the interaction towards sex.
Thinking back to my first daygame session, I feel just as obsessed today, if not more. I can’t think of another activity that gives me that much energy. I regularly catch myself drifting over the streets of Berlin experiencing a strong but natural high. It feels as if I’m breathing in life itself. Long may it last - onward and upward.