The writing on this one is a bit crude because I’m frustrated as hell as I write, and I don’t want to edit the text
In the span of just two days, I had three occasions where I felt a deep disdain for women:
- An encounter with an annoying career woman at my co-working
- An insufferable date
- A date that flaked without cancelling
The career woman was ugly and the story boring. For my own learning, I want to focus on the date.
We were sitting in Chapeau Rouge. She kept on blabbing about how she has “too much choice” and “gets tired from all the attention she’s getting”. She had a nice body, but with her face, she was a 7 at best. I get that girls are fed an endless stream of validation from simping men, but I’m not used to girls being so in-your-face explicit about it.
I think I handled it reasonably well by downplaying the quality of those men without being too confrontational. The date was not all bad either: she politely rejected my second kiss attempt, but let me grope her calves, upper legs, and quads. Eventually I had enough and said “let’s go for a walk”. I stopped feeding her any validation and promptly called off the night saying I had to go see a friend (not a lie: I had another date lined up). She was taken a bit by surprise, probably expecting me to listen another hour to her self-approval, but politely said goodbye.
Although the experience is without a doubt frustrating, I’m happy to see that I’m starting to date girls that are not sold on my from the beginning. In other words, I can no longer get by just on my looks. In situations like these, I actually need to think about Game, and try to make the right decision.
My calibration is still hazy, but this is what I make of the situation:
- She’s low self-esteem and is explicitly building a facade (sign of weakness).
- I noticed her saying she’s attracted to men who are aloof (her words), so a strong vacuum is appropriate now.
- Even though she rebuffed two kiss-attempts, I don’t think she’s a plain timewaster because she’s accepting my verbal and physical escalation: I firmly grabbed her ass in the bar after all.
Based on today’s date, this is how I’ll go forward: this girl is clearly used to tooling guys for attention, and is turned of by guys who she describes as “simpy”, who are really nice to her. (Unsurprisingly, she comes from a broken home with an absent father. Very typical for such girls). I’m not going to text her for a day or two, and may give her a small ping on Sunday to gauge where she’s at. If she’s enthusiastic, I’ll try to seed another date next week. If not, I’ll cut my losses and next her