category: Learning

I suppose I can call myself a daygamer now. Today I completed my 1000th set. As expected, there were no fireworks. Nor did the sets feel like the “1000 sets of hell”. Instead, I experienced a mild feeling of contentment and accomplishment: I set my mind to daygame, and I persisted for 562 days. Compared to Prague in April 2024 (300 sets), I feel the following changes: I still feel approach anxiety but manage to overcome it consistently. Girls no longer question my intent: they know I’m hitting on them. I’m only beginning to weave in actual Game into my sets (opposed to friendly chit-chat). Improved non-verbals: I’m standing close, touch them, and hold strong eye contact on green lights (when the girl gives good signals). Inner game issues: still too focused on impressing the girl (lack of entitlement). My goal is to reach 2000 sets by the end of 2025. ...

You know, the fascinating thing about daygame is that it puts me in contact with girls far outside my own social stratum. This week I closed1 an Italian girl who was a bit quiet. Very introverted. Not a “good girl”: she later confessed some extreme sexual adventures. She encountered some genuine tragedy in life (deaths of relatives, suicide, violence, etc.). I’ve had my issues but my life was a walk in the park compared to hers. I was so struck by how genuinely kind she was. She wasn’t acting either: she wasn’t trying to impress me and had already confessed the fucked up stuff. It felt like she experienced so much misery that she was tired of it all and just defaulted to being a good person. I don’t know. Meeting a girl like that left a deep impression on me. I don’t think I’m in the game to “bang lots of bitches”, at least not consciously, I think I crave a deep connection with the feminine. ...

Only after doing 500+ daygame sets, did I realize how badly I was weaseling in business. If I was as motivated in cold calling prospects as cold approaching students, I’d be set for life. In addition, after reading both Nick Krauser’s and John Bodi’s memoirs, did I realize how Gamma I was1 at work: God complex: everyone in this office is a retard except me. I work better alone (because I don’t want to face the reality that some colleagues are smarter and/or more skilled than me). Avoidance: mastering Vim, niche Linux distributions, configuring my tiling window manager, etc. In other words, escaping into elitism instead of doing the important hard work in front of me. Ignoring market needs: employers/clients should just hire me so I can enjoy myself exercising my technical skills on their dime. Build it and they will come: great employers/clients will automatically somehow find me and reach out. Daygame is the first time in my life I had to face unfiltered feedback from an actual marketplace: girls clearly signalling they wouldn’t fuck me. I learned that “Improving myself” doesn’t mean anything if you don’t actually put yourself out there. Becoming good does not feel good or rewarding: it’s intense drilling of a hard technical skill set over and over again. ...

I just got back from a session with my new wing. We called it quits at 8 pm as the foot traffic was getting sparse. We bid farewell and I marched towards the Friedrichstraße Metro (SBahn) station. My vibe was pretty low throughout the session so I was ready to call it a day. Climbing the stairs, I noticed that the escalators leading to the train platform were blocked: “no service - under construction”. Fuck. Guess I’ll walk toward Hackescher Markt and take the metro from there. Might as well do one more set… ...

Today I did my 500th approach. I remember walking Warschauer Straße hoping for a memorable set for this personal milestone. I was not dissapointed. She was a pretty Russian who turned out to be on her way to meet some friends. The set was a ray of hope in what was otherwise a very bleak session, as my vibe has been very flat that day. The set didn’t go anywhere because she had a boyfriend of 4 years, but as we parted ways she said “you have very beautiful eyes” as she grabbed my hand to shake it. It’s small moments like these, despite of losing the set, that fuel my determination to reach the next 500 approaches. ...